Friends after dating
That means that you’re going to relate differently to your ex too; things that you were cool sharing before can feel incredibly awkward or intrusive now that you’re not together any more.It becomes part of that awkward “so, what are we supposed to say?How do you navigate the complicated waters of a post-break-up friendship? Yes, there are people who say that they were able to slip straight into a friendship after they broke up without missing a beat.There are also people who win the Mega-Millions lottery with a single ticket.
After all, you’re a team; what they do materially affects too and vice versa. It’s understandable that you’re going to be one of the highest priorities in their lives, that they’re going to put their relationship with you (and yours with them) ahead of others.One of the things that people tend to forget – especially in a long-term relationship – is that you develop new habits and routines that center around having your ex in your life.Regardless of whether you lived together or lived apart, you will have into certain patterns that are dependent on working in tandem with another person. It’s easier and healthier to start a friendship when you’ve had the time and and distance to get some perspective on your old relationship.It takes time to relearn how to be on your own again, and the longer you were with them, the longer it’s going to take. Plus, getting over your ex helps avoid the annoying “reconnecting because you want to bang, not be friends” two-step.
You need to discover who you are now and how you’ve changed and grown. You need to let that pain out so you can let it go and it’s going to be almost impossible to do this while they’re still so present in your life. Lock down your social media and phone so that you’re not tempted to pick at those scabs. One of the most difficult parts of building and maintaining a friendship after you’ve broken up is adjusting to the difference in intimacy.Good fences make for good neighbors and good boundaries make for good friends; establishing early on what you both are and aren’t comfortable with is part of how you make a friendship with your ex work.It’s to not be comfortable getting the full details of what your ex is getting up to; being uncomfortable with knowing about their sex life doesn’t make you less of a friend, nor does it mean you’re not over them.Trying to force a friendship too early means you’re going to fall right back into old patterns with your ex and that spells trouble.