Dating for sex addicts
When you start dating in recovery you need to be vigilant as to the people you choose to date, but you also need to be aware that your own behavior patterns may include seductiveness, predatory flirting or objectification. My own feeling is that the healthier you become the more you can rely on your intuitions and your first impressions.
Even in recovery, you are still going to be susceptible to that peculiar feeling of “ That feeling should be a warning signal to take stock of the situation and be aware that an instant connectedness may indicate that you have come across someone who fits your past pattern of relationships in which healthy love and commitment are not possible. Many people have questions about how and when to share their sexual history with a person they are dating.
By Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S Dating seems to confound the even the most rational among us.High drama relationships or relationships built around unhealthy sexual or emotional scenarios, unavailable or abusive partners, etc. These relationships most likely related to a pattern laid down in your earliest experiences with intimacy and sex.They may reflect fear of abandonment, the need to dominate, the need to degrade or be degraded in order to feel adequate, or any of a number of unhealthy emotional “scripts”.Dan, a 31-year old sociology professor put it this way, “I don’t know what it is about me, I can teach classes about the meaning of relationships, but I can’t seem to actually get one of my own going.