Dating addict recovery
On the other hand, if two recovering addicts or alcoholics are healthy and doing well, there’s the potential for them to really feed each other. Two addicts are a sobriety “power couple,” working their own programs and growing individually.
As each focuses on their own practice and growth, the two people grow together.
Dating is one of those things that can really change the course of someone’s recovery.
Dating in recovery can be confusing, whether it’s two addicts in a relationship or a “normie” and addict dating.
If you’re in a relationship with a recovering drug addict or in recovery yourself, there are factors to consider that may not be present in a relationship with somebody who is not an addict.
Knowing this, we can use our self-understanding to watch out for the same behaviors moving forward.When two addicts in a relationship are in early recovery, they may fall into avoiding what truly needs to be addressed.In twelve-step rooms there’s a warning against letting your partner become your Higher Power. We can certainly find safety and help in our relationship, but are we using it as an escape or putting all of our eggs in one basket? Dopamine is released and we get a serious hit of endorphins.We watch for selfishness, self-seeking behavior and notice where we may have some thorns in our actions.
Before we dive into this, let me just tell a bit of my story. The short relationships didn’t end well, and it brought a lot of suffering and pain.
When I had about two years of clean time, I met a young woman at a twelve-step meeting who had been sober for about a year. I mention this to illustrate that I am absolutely not against dating in recovery.